Confidence Building ebooks

There are several self help books out there in the market. There are a lot of them really. But the drastic fact is that most of them are useless. Useless in the sense most of them don't teach you the basics. They just try to explain all the stuff quickly in a hurried pace. The end result is not what you wanted.

Well I have been researching about this for some time. I have read most of the books and here is a short list of the books that I found really useful.

1. What Every Body is saying - Joe Navarro:-   This is one of the best selling books on Amazon. Joe is  an ex-FBI agent and he  brings his field experience into teaching you the basics of body language. The book is illustrated well with enough pictures and examples that it becomes easy for any person to understand the nuances of body language. If you are a beginner  to  body language I recommend you this.

2   .The magic of making up with your ex :- TW Jackson

 You know a lot of people are facing this problem . Small fights exaggerated will spoil your relationships until it is too late when you realize you want them back and if you could have prevented all this. TW Jackson helps you read the signs and play properly so that you can get back with your ex. A sure book you need to read.

3.  The Truth about six pack abs:- Mike Geary

   

   Well you might be expecting what is a physical training book  doing here. Just imagine if your body looked sexy and attractive , what it would do to your confidence. Surely it will rocket it up and you don't need anything else. A healthy body leads to a healthy mind which leads to healthy confidence which is what you want.

Mike Geary is an acclaimed physical trainer who helps you realize the truth about abs rather than the other authors there who just give you a workout list of exercises that you will never do. 

This is a refreshing way to 6-pack abs worth trying.

These are just some of  the books that I have found useful in boosting your confidence . Though they don't directly relate to confidence building , 2 of them teach you techniques to read other people and maintain calm while the third helps you to get a gorgeous body you will flaunt for sure.

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Anger Management - 5 techniques

Anger is a strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some real or supposed grievance. It is so powerful that it disables us completely . We lose all rational thinking skills and start behaving more or less like animals.  


To be angry is easy , but to do it to the  right person ,at the right time to the  right degree is difficult - Aristotle


Anger can easily dominate you unless you take steps to control it.  Being  angry means to stop thinking rationally and that results in you making all the wrong decisions at the wrong time. So we know we have to control it. Here's how.

1. Catch your stress early. Most of you are so used to walking around feeling stressed out that you aren't even aware that it is building inside you until all of a sudden KABOOM!.
2. Try looking at things from a different perspective . I know it is easy said than done particularly when you rational brain has been hijacked by emotions. Slow down, become aware of how you are thinking . Ask yourself what kind of mood this  is likely to put you in and if this is how you want to feel. If not ask yourself how you would rather feel and try to think of a different story to tell yourself that would make you feel this way. This is not impossible. It is only difficult at first and then practice makes perfect.
3. Take care of yourself. Get the right amount of rest. Keep an eye on how much you drink. Enjoy yourself!
4. Be realistic about your family. If Uncle Brad tells the same story every year, he's going to do it again. If your Aunt Lilly has a habit of criticizing everything she is still going to do that. You just have to see them for a few hours every year so try to enjoy the change by finding humor in it.
5.  Let bygones be bygones. That is the past. It is done and now you can't do anything about it. So just let it go. It will do you more good than keeping  all that locked up inside you.

Anger effects the efficiency of your decisions and will affect your confidence levels greatly. It is an untamed animal in you and until you learn to tame it , you will be at its mercy.

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Keys to Happiness

The best way to be happy is to concentrate on 3 things whatever you do . Those are

1. Cultivating love
2. Purpose
3. Gratitude 

As a result of this you will feel love for yourself and as a side effect people  will love you for it.

It is almost impossible for others to love you unless you love yourself. When you value  yourself , others will value you too. You will have to be more open with your friends and share a lot with the. No man is an island . You cannot keep all these things down in you forever. You need to share  things and sharing things means you will feel more relaxed . It implies you trust your friend which in turn will make him happy and surely he will appreciate it and will return you the favor making you feel happy.

No one likes to think that their life is happening in a cipher, endlessly going no where. Of course we feel like this sometimes, but if that feelings continues for too long, life becomes pretty unbearable. Finding purpose in your life gives it meaning and joy. Without a purpose you surely will feel like not working and an idle mind is the devils workshop. It is absolutely imperative that you find a purpose in your life however small or big it is. Then you will impart a meaning to  your life  and every  action you do to achieve it will bring you enormous joy. Finding a purpose in life can be difficult but is important to experiencing happiness.

Be grateful for what you have and don't beat yourself up if you don't have something. If you are fat be grateful that you have a physique with which you can beat up any guy , any time. See you just have to see the positive side of it. God has created you for a purpose and he has given you everything that you need . All you need to do is be grateful and stop complaining about what you don't have and start realizing the power of what you have.

Being happy and in a relaxed state of mind helps build your confidence . One exercise that I use is the "Gratitude list".  Take out a sheet of paper and list it from 1-10. Now write down ten things you are grateful you have.It can be from a head full of hair to a techie brain. Once you have listed them , keep it in your pocket so that  you can read them from time to time and you know what you have.

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