tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-73187333444316914972024-03-21T16:51:07.816+05:30Personality DevelopmentIf Money is lost , nothing is lost; <br>
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If Character is lost , everything is lost.orackelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03421092267671045018noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318733344431691497.post-18541712834587649262010-11-24T14:35:00.001+05:302010-11-24T16:57:02.557+05:30Confidence Building ebooksThere are several self help books out there in the market. There are a lot of them really. But the drastic fact is that most of them are useless. Useless in the sense most of them don't teach you the basics. They just try to explain all the stuff quickly in a hurried pace. The end result is not what you wanted.<br />
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</div><div>Well I have been researching about this for some time. I have read most of the books and here is a short list of the books that I found really useful.</div><div><a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Every-Body-Saying-Speed-reading/dp/0061438294" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6zbOOvl2TfK2DzdwLoqyrqQ6eaChGjQNBh6Ht9Cuyyrj4U2Jd4uZRgLPArKSSKaXzFrkriji3abl-qk8iI7Td0kZxxh-cLp1D-TLHBThsGWFKoVJXIHPglUGC5zstO00Pf7RZfmtw63M/s1600/51%25ED%258B%25BC%25E0%25A2%25A4%25EE%25B9%258B._BO2%252C204%252C203%252C200_PIsitb-sticker-arrow-click%252CTopRight%252C35%252C-76_AA300_SH20_OU02_.jpg" /></a></div><div><ol><li><b><u><a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Every-Body-Saying-Speed-reading/dp/0061438294">What Every Body is saying - Joe Navarro:-</a> </u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"> This is one of the best selling books on Amazon. Joe is an ex-FBI agent and he brings his field experience into teaching you the basics of body language. The book is illustrated well with enough pictures and examples that it becomes easy for any person to understand the nuances of body language. If you are a beginner to body language I recommend you this.</span></b></li>
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</div><div>3. <b><u><a href="http://cb2049u1i8la7rnfsbpfsxyxd0.hop.clickbank.net/">The Truth about six pack abs:- Mike Geary</a></u></b></div><div> </div><div><a href="http://cb2049u1i8la7rnfsbpfsxyxd0.hop.clickbank.net/" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0PHG3VdTViohiddiQ6j36J8heHhLaKJ_g6NGZOxqXYqz45pmFp8h0QUrlxtr4X2UKwnukYJMqqUmcEVulzPo_kyqkIQnjQRSeNgkTX0EaVNzIpC3ij2wB8BGj-Qku53Fy9fCTBu-j7to/s320/ebook_cover_small.jpg" width="276" /></a> Well you might be expecting what is a physical training book doing here. Just imagine if your body looked sexy and attractive , what it would do to your confidence. Surely it will rocket it up and you don't need anything else. A healthy body leads to a healthy mind which leads to healthy confidence which is what you want.</div><div><br />
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</div><div>More in the next post.</div>orackelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03421092267671045018noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318733344431691497.post-65794812103031645792010-11-19T19:31:00.001+05:302010-11-19T19:32:35.930+05:30Anger Management - 5 techniques<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Anger is a strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some real or supposed grievance. It is so powerful that it disables us completely . We lose all rational thinking skills and start behaving more or less like animals. </span><br />
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Try looking at things from a different perspective . I know it is easy said than done particularly when you rational brain has been hijacked by emotions. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Slow down, become aware of how you are thinking . Ask yourself what kind of mood this is likely to put you in and if this is how you want to feel. If not ask yourself how you would rather feel and try to think of a different story to tell yourself that would make you feel this way. This is not impossible. It is only difficult at first and then practice makes perfect.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Take care of yourself. Get the right amount of rest. Keep an eye on how much you drink. Enjoy yourself!</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Be realistic about your family. If Uncle Brad tells the same story every year, he's going to do it again. If your Aunt Lilly has a habit of criticizing everything she is still going to do that. You just have to see them for a few hours every year so try to enjoy the change by finding humor in it.</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Let bygones be bygones. That is the past. It is done and now you can't do anything about it. So just let it go. It will do you more good than keeping all that locked up inside you.</span></li>
</ol><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Anger effects the efficiency of your decisions and will affect your confidence levels greatly. It is an untamed animal in you and until you learn to tame it , you will be at its mercy.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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All our emotions: anger, laughter, stress, disgust etc. are expressed by our body using different body language clusters. These are universal emotions and are easily recognized by any one.<br />
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But if you knew the gestures that actually tell that you are stressed out and could efficiently avoid them and adopt more positive gestures ,then you can make yourself feel positive.<br />
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This information is very vital as it can help you in numerous situations for ex: when on a date, job interviews, detecting deceit to name some.<br />
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Everyday we encounter this emotion. It is a part of our complex world. But it is really unbelievable that just by knowing that certain gestures show stress and avoiding it and adopting more positive gestures can beat stress . Even more shocking is the fact that most of the people in the world are not even aware of this.<br />
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The FFF response is an evolutionarily imbibed response in us and it is so successful that our brains have kept it. If this response was backwards like when we say " Fight or Flight " , all of us will be battered and cut and injuring ourselves all the time. Thats why it is "Freeze , Flight or Fight" . Learning about these responses and how we have adopted and changed it to suit the modern world will be worth a lot. This information is regularly used by FBI and other security agency agents to detect deceit and solve crimes.<br />
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When our ancestors used to travel in the tall savannas in Africa which were filled with predators looking for prey, they developed a way to save themselves from these predators. They found out that these predators are attracted to motion , so if they stood still without any movement , the predator cannot detect them an they would survive . This is the freeze mechanism that first comes to us when we are threatened. This response has been so effective that our limbic brain learnt it and automatically makes us respond to any threat like this.<br />
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Do you remember the last time you forgot something in your house and you had to come back to get it? I bet when you first got the thought you forgot to take that thing , you stopped (if you were walking) or forgot about the road and drove. See this response is very fast and just lasts 2-3 seconds. Those invaluable seconds gives your brain time to analyze the problem (threat) an react properly.<br />
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This freeze response is frequently looked in lie detection . You can use it too. If you think a person is lying , ask him about where was he or what was he doing at that time? If he takes 2-3 seconds and answers , his freeze response has kicked in. You might want to ask yourself what made him take that time to think about where he was? There is a real chance that he is lying, but you cannot detect it just by this signal. You need to learn more.<br />
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</div><div>Fighting is considered wrong and in many cases illegal. I mean physical fighting. But we still fight on a regular basis. As we evolved , so too our fights. We now argue and file lawsuits and fight in a more civilized manner but still the old brawling is there. It is our survival mechanism and we cannot live without it.</div><div><br />
</div><div>But as I said earlier , with evolution our fights also changed. Now we don't fight directly, but show our aggression in other ways . We take up defensive stances , argue , flare noses to show our aggression.</div><div><br />
</div><div>You can regularly see bouncers and muggers with this body language. There is nothing friendly there . You know they are ready to fight if need be . Some things you may want to look out for while checking if the other person has silently decided to fight with you are.</div><div><br />
</div><div><ol><li>The arms around the chest like shown in the picture. </li>
<li>If the fists in that free or not clenched, then the other person is frustrated but still is defensive to you.</li>
<li>If the fists are clenched , he has turned from frustrated to hostile and is really up for a fight.</li>
<li>If with the fists clenched vocal arguments also come up and he takes a dominating stance with legs splayed and both legs planted on the feet , you better run or fight.</li>
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<li style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><u><b>Aggressive Body Language</b></u>: You have to be a person who is filled with energy and shows off his energy. This will boost your confidence and also people love energetic people. Do you remember the last time you saw a lay speaker?</span></li>
<li><u><b><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: small;">Bite your tongue</span>:</b></u> This is a technique used by opera singers . Whenever your mouth gets dry , just give it a gentle bite. It will release saliva and make your throat moist.</li>
<li><u><b>Use your eyes: </b></u>Your eyes will tell the audience whether you believe what you are saying! Each time you make a point , focus on one person in the room and look straight into her.This might be a little intimidating for them ,but it keeps them and you focused. Move to new people in the room and you'll have a better audience response.</li>
<li> <u><b>Change your Norm:</b></u> When you reach a part of your presentation where you really have to make a point ,changing your norm works nicely. If you speak standing at the center of the stage , move to the left or right of your primary position when making a really important point. This will make people look upto you. If you are a mover and shaker, standing still for a few moments will have the same effect.</li>
<li><u><b>Pin drop effect:</b></u> When you really need attention get quiet. This will scare the noisy guy to death and people will give you attention. That is what sells your talk .</li>
<li><b><u>Tee it higher:</u></b> If you want to rush adrenaline into your audience , raise your pitch a little higher. It creates a sense of urgency. A low pitch gives the audience a relaxed feel while a high pitch rushes adrenaline and passion.</li>
<li><u><b>Rehearse , rehearse and rehearse:</b></u> Practice makes perfect. Nothing else has to be said.</li>
<li><u><b>Perform for a hero:</b></u> Think that you are performing for your favorite superhero so that he will choose you as his favorite superfan, how will you prepare? How will you perform? Always think of your favorite hero and perform like you would perform for him.</li>
<li><u><b>Know when to go:</b></u> Knowing when to go is more important than any other tip. If you see signs of your audience getting bored , try to revive them up. Still if nothing works, start thanking and leaving. Your audience will remember you for knowing when to stop than for your content. </li>
</ol>orackelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03421092267671045018noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318733344431691497.post-64586695055216342012010-10-03T19:22:00.003+05:302010-10-03T19:30:01.084+05:30The Magic of Making Up - ReviewThe Magic of making up is a digital e-book written by TW Jackson. The author tries to help out people who are in the brink of divorce, or lover's rejection however hopeless the situation maybe.<br />
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The product actually is good. We thought the author's claim of helping "<b>50,119 people in 77 countries</b> " was a hoax but judging from the quality of the material provided , it really has a potential to be useful to a lot more people.<br />
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</ol><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px;">This just a small list of the benefits I could remember. This book is based on psychological behavioral patterns and helps you understand how one sex thinks differently from the other. Armed with this knowledge you will be able to defuse the situation with your ex.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px;"><br />
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</div><div>When you write, your whole mind is engaged. You subconscious mind is rooted in reality with the content you create. Have you noted why the authors of self-help and personal growth seem to become more and more successful in their life? Their minds are reinforced by what they write. So lets get to work.</div><div><br />
</div><div>To start the process off, take a piece of paper and write what you want to achieve. Some say that writing by hand strengthens the connection to your spirit.I like to keep a diary of my writing. Those who are used to writing diaries will find it easy to start off. It also helps you to keep track of your progress.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Write down what it is to get the confidence you want. How do you speak? What would you do? What are the achievements or goals will you achieve? You see visualization is a very powerful technique and writing is an excellent way to do it. The more detailed, the more easily your subconscious mind will absorb the message. Try to include your senses in your writing. Write about how your new car will feel, look sound etc. What does an apple taste like a confident person? How do you eat? </div><div><br />
</div><div>This whole exercise may seem silly to you but it works wonderfully. It would be better to do it once or twice a week and the best to do daily. Repetition is also good for the solidification of hypnotic suggestions.</div><div><br />
</div><div>A lot of people think that handwriting is not important. But the truth is that handwriting reflects your personality. <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Graphology">Graphologists</a> use this principle to understand about your personality. Like body language gestures , handwriting traits are also common . Like confident people , burglars , murderers, rapists etc. have different traits. Like in body language gestures, if you avoid the wrong ones and adopt the good ones consciously , you'll achieve what you want in life.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Though the above technique works on the basis of visualization , I thought a little information wouldn't do you bad.</div><div><br />
</div><div>See you in the next post. </div>orackelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03421092267671045018noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318733344431691497.post-6733048909421635652010-10-02T21:27:00.001+05:302010-10-02T21:29:37.569+05:30Body Language and ConfidenceBody language and confidence are related very closely. Actually body language is related to almost every emotion we feel. We express every emotion we feel in one way or other using our body which may be knowingly or mostly unknowingly . These are body language gestures . Learning them can be very useful in a lot of ways.<br />
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<li> If you knew which body language gestures express what , you would be able to control your emotions using body language.</li>
<li>Lie detection : Why were FBI guys taught body language and cops have right to arrest/frisk someone who looks suspicious.</li>
<li>You would be able to look super confident and you would be super confident naturally because of it.</li>
<li>You look could look super sexy and be able to attract a partner of your choice.</li>
<li>You would be able to understand more about what people are thinking and could effectively use it to your advantage.</li>
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</div><div>See I just gave you 5 reasons why you should know about body language.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Body language is genetically programmed into us. When no languages were used ,hand and body gestures were used to communicate. Even though language developed we didn't forget our old ways and we still use gestures unknowingly to communicate what we are actually feeling.</div><div><br />
</div><div>To a trained eye these subtle gestures are more than enough to read you. Body language gestures and voice tone patterns form 90% of the communication and only the rest 10% actually comprises of the real words you spoke. It justifies the statement :</div><div><br />
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</div><div>Body language gestures are universal to all human beings and cultures and the most universal emotions are gestured using the same body language gestures worldwide. Body language trespasses all boundaries and learning it can help you in getting what you want anywhere in the world.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Over the years , several emotions had trademark gestures. Even as language developed , we didn't forget what these gestures represented. These were stored in our brain and we use them unconsciously to express what we feel. Also if we adopt a gesture knowingly , you will also feel the emotion associated with it. This is what is taught to you in confidence training. </div><div><br />
</div><div>The instructors will teach you gestures that are known to confident people. When you start replicating them , you'll feel confident too and people start reacting to you too. With the good feedback ( you 'll feel the change ) you get from the people around you, you'll just continue the good things and get rid of the bad things.</div><div><br />
</div><div>I have learnt and have seen myself how people just do not get what they deserve because they project a bad image of themselves unknowingly. I'm here to help you change that using the most effective and time and science proven techniques in body language. Let the power flow to you.</div><div><br />
</div><div>See you on the next post. </div><div><br />
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